Expectations

You know the infamous saying “expectations lead to disappointment”. So true, yet we continue to do it knowing the end result will always leave us feeling a certain type of way.

Honestly, I think if you have no expectations, you’ll receive more. It is almost equivalent to not being in control of life and letting things be the way they are.

You really have to be open and accepting that things can go left. Some people come with so many intentions and expectations and when the present moment is happening it’s not what they expected. But of course, you already know these things. What to do when expectations come, you should try focusing on changing your thoughts into the now. Changing your thoughts will allow you to be optimistic and enjoy that moment. Just be aware of what you’re thinking.

Don’t put too much pressure on the moment. I don’t expect much, so when I ever I see someone retweeting or sharing my posts. It’s like I cry tears of joy. I don’t expect anyone to do anything, but the fact that each of you do is amazing and I am forever grateful.

Oh, and stop expecting people to do things for you. Just because you did something for someone does not mean they have to return the favor. Don’t expect anything from anyone!!! Nothing is really guaranteed.

Laugh a little!

Laugh a little! People take life way too seriously. It's like breathe, take a chill pill. Why are people so intense and hard? It's okay to smile or laugh. Nothing is going to happen if you smile. If anything someone day would be made or they were able to smile too. Somethings we laugh at may not be funny, but laugh anyway. The best therapeutic thing to do is laugh, especially when your situation can be a lot. Always know that you will always come out winning even when it doesn’t seem that way.

It bothers me when I am smiling and laughing and a person is mad because I am enjoying life. Some people may say I laugh a lot and I’ll just say I have a lot to laugh about. Life is good, I’m breathing and healthy, what more can I ask for? I can not stay in a negative mood; it is too much energy.

There are people who are so hurt and bitter that to them smiling is a crime. Let the hurt go, and keep moving forward. Laugh a little you will feel better and free. Spread more positivity. You never know what frown you can turn into a smile.

Things Change

It’s amazing, but also scary how things change so fast. One moment you’re down and the next moment you’re up. Last year you went through some things and this year there’s nothing but abundance of blessings.

It is important to remain present of your life because everything you have is temporary. Change is inevitable, it is bound to happen whether you want it to or not. You just have to adapt to whatever life throws at you. Appreciate all that you have, what leaves, and what comes.

If you’re in a bad situation, brighter days are coming. If you’re in a good space, thank God. I think it is comforting to know that the bad times don’t last. Faith is all you need. 

Nothing will ever be the same.

Peace, love, and light to you all. Have a great weekend!

Being Kind vs. Being Nice

Do you know the difference between being kind versus being nice?

Kindness is when you do something and do not expect anything in return. While, being nice is when you do something that you really don’t want to do. Resulting that someone should do something for you because you did something for them.

Are you always kind, nice, or both? Understand being kind doesn’t jeopardize the things you want. However, being nice puts your feelings on the backburner for another person.

Know your intentions on why you are doing things for someone. As soon as someone tell you “no”, your true feelings will appear.

Kindness is a way of honoring yourself and others. I prefer to be kind because it’s my true feelings. It’s genuine. I prefer to doing things and not EXPECT things from people. If people do return the favor than it is much appreciated. However, being nice can bring up many emotions of anger, frustration, and being irritable because you’re going out of your way to do something you don’t want to do. You hope and pray when you need that someone they will say yes. Hope you are understanding the difference.

As much as I prefer to be kind always, there must be a balance. You must be kind and nice. Being both will get you places you have never seen coming. Sometimes we are asked of things we do not want to do, but it doesn’t hurt to just help someone out. You never know when you may need help.

Make sure your intentions and actions are aligned! Be kind and nice to someone today.

Discovering your True Self

Discovering your true self can be tough, but the final reward is pleasant. This means living your truth by knowing and honoring yourself. Each day you are learning who you are and you will never stop learning. During any journey you go through, there will be tough times, but it is important to stay focused and stay true to your yourself. DO what makes you happy and not someone else. Sometimes people and influences are likely to take you off track just by association. That is why you choose your friends wisely. You do not want to get caught up.

I know what motivates me and I know what I dislike. It has been a journey for me. As I continue the journey I always find new things about myself every day that I like and may not. I do believe in order to help people you must know who you are and what you value. Really, we all here on this earth to help serve each other.

Look at getting to know yourself, like peeling off an onion. The peeling of the onion is so real to life because as you get to know yourself, you get to see who you truly are. When people do things that are out of the ordinary I always like to consider maybe something trigger them to act in a way. For example, someone being cheap, but they have money. Somewhere in their upbringing caused them to be frugal with their money due to some type of fear. Majority of us are a product of our environment. Nothing is wrong with that because we have been given the power to change. KNOW WHY YOU DO THE THINGS YOU DO OR REACT TO CERTAIN SITUATIONS.

To get to know who you are, you must be attentive to what is going on, then understand why. You’ll definitely see the changes internally. Asking yourself questions can allow you to be self-aware. Asking what is my purpose? Why did I make that decision? Lastly, the most important thing is surrounding yourself around people who compliment you. Some people in our life are toxic and need to be removed, while others are a great asset. Discover who you are so that you can attract the things you want.

More than often while you are trying to reach your fullest potential, you likely able to help someone reach theirs.

Life is Unpredictable!

Literally life is so unpredictable, sometimes you just got to roll with it. Life will not always be up or down. It'll be both. One moment you're happy and the next not so much. 

I think that's what make life so interesting. You never know what's going to happen next. Things will happen out of nowhere. That's why you have to appreciate each aspect of life. It includes being mindful of how you feel and what's going on around you. I am really intrigued about what makes me react a certain way and how I attract great things and people into my life.

Even with so much going on, no matter where you are in life just try to stay grounded. Life is such an adventure. Each part of your day makes you into the person you are becoming.  Just take life like it is and run with it. You can't imagine how things will turn out to be. Just think a year ago and today? It's a big difference. Where you were then, you are not today. That’s why you shouldn’t stress because everything is temporary. Anything you need, you will have, you just have to be patient.

I am so amazed at life and blessed. Not everyone gets to experience joy or yet another breath. It really surprises me when you meet people at the right time and place. The next thing you know, both of you become good friends. 

Enjoy life for what it is, there’s always a lesson behind every struggle, and joy as you grow.